THIS IS LONG, BE AWARE..
i would make a Youtube video on this topic, but i am currently out of state where there is horrible lighting, and i am just now in the right place to do so. however, it is has been heavy on my heart to share the Gospel with some peeps out there < 3
how do we forgive the unforgivable, the people who feel like ruined our life, our attitude, our heart? it could be the guy/girl who broke up with you after 4 years, it could be that drunk driver who took your relatives life, maybe that person who bullied you all throughout highschool, the father or mother who abandoned you, or the person who allowed drugs/alcohol ruin your relationship/friendship with them. no matter how tragic, no matter how hurtful it may have been, forgiveness is still an option. it could be something simpler, not as tragic and painful, but there is still a burden there. forgiveness is an option for you, too. if there is someone that who has hurt you that you have yet to forgive, there is an option out there, called forgiving.
first, let me tell you, if anyone reading this has went through any of that, i am so sorry. i am so sorry that you have had to experience that. i am not, by any means, covering those situations up by saying they are right. i have been fortunate enough where i can say i haven’t experienced any of that, so to say i understand, i don’t. i am here, however, to remind you that there is hope for peace in your heart, for a burden to leave, a barrier to break, a knife to take out of your own back, and a person to forgive.
the person who you are struggling to forgive has probably went on with their life. honestly, they might not even think about what they’ve done to you. but on your side, you struggle everyday with what they did, you still hold a grudge, and you are the one who is getting hurt. so to be completely honest, the only person you’re harming, is yourself. so, first step to forgiving that person, is to know that you will be ending YOUR suffering. i’m sure you want to feel better, and feel like an elephant has been lifted off your chest. and once you remind yourself that you can easily kick that elephant off, you should do it.
There is a parable in Luke chapter 15 that Jesus spoke about. To sum it up for you, there was a father who had two sons. One of the sons asked the father for all the money that he put aside for his inheritance. The son left home, with all the money, and used it out having fun. When the money ran out, he started a job feeding pigs. The son soon realized how miserable he was, and that he could go home and be a servant for his father. So he made his way back home, telling his father, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants.” (v. 18-19) The son knew what he had done was wrong, disrespectful, hurtful, so when he returned back home, he didn’t think his father would forgive him and take him back as a son, so he wanted to go back being a servant. HOWEVER, his father responded, “Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on is hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found”. (v.22-24)
The way this father responded to his son, is the way Jesus responds to us. He forgives us, gives us the best of best, makes sure we’re taken care of, and gives a giant hug (v.20) we are welcomed back into His family. now, because Jesus forgives us, ON A DAILY BASIS, we are to forgive others. well, what if that person doesn’t apologize to me? what if they aren’t really sorry for what they did? do i still have to forgive them?
love is something that helps you to forgive. it helps yourself, because you love yourself enough to pull that knife out of your own back. love always cover wrong doings. it doesn’t hold onto the past, it forgives, and it moves on. with a spirit of love, you are able to forgive those whether they apologize or not.
just because you are forgiving someone, doesn’t mean you agree that what they did was okay. forgiving others is something we need to do, to be forgiven by Jesus. and if you ask me, I need to be forgiven. i sin on a daily basis, and if I didn’t have Gods gracious love and never-ending forgiveness, my heart would be full of guilt, hate, grudges, and anger.
“For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.” Matthew 6:14-15
When you have a heart full of love and the Word, forgiveness slowly becomes an easier option. an option that will take away anger, bitterness, grudges, knives out of your back, and an elephant off of your chest.
You are welcomed with arms wide open when your sins are forgiven by Jesus. Lets become the people who welcome people who have hurt us with arms wide open, reminding them that they are still loved.
hey friends, its okay to be upset and mad at someone. but there comes a point where not forgiving someone becomes harmful to you, your heart, your relationships, and to others.
lets have a goal today — to become more like Jesus. and the first step? forgiveness.
It is never about Jesus if it’s always about us.
I pray that The Lord may speak to you through me, I can only hope I can help you in your relationship with Christ.